Last Sex with Bex

Well friends, this will be my last Sex with Bex. It has been a wild ride of intense and hilarious questions, research, and writing. I hope that all of you have been inspired or intrigued by something that came out of this column. Hopefully it's made your world a little more sex friendly and a little more sexy in general! I've managed to answer almost every question that has come my way over the past two years... the only one I couldn't find the answer to was whether or not a person is able to have an orgasm while in a coma. I assume that since people are able to have orgasms in their sleep, or dream-gasms as I prefer to call them, they would be able to have orgasms while comatose. The internet proved unhelpful as it only gave me articles about "how to fuck yourself into a coma", "multiple orgasm comas", and "ejaculations so strong you'll go into a coma". Not so helpful. I suppose I'll leave you all with that mystery to research for yourselves!


As exam periods start up I hope you're all planning a little sexual stress relief. Feel free to think of me as you procrasturbate your studying!

Dear Bex,

I've heard that you're not supposed to brush your teeth before giving oral sex? Is that true? If so, why?

-Minty Fresh

Dear Minty,

The first time I heard this I assumed it was because the intense mint flavours in some toothpastes might irritate a partners genitals if you went down on a person immediately after brushing, but I was recently watching Sex with Sue, and she said otherwise. Tooth brushing often causes little rips and tears along the gum line, so if you brush immediately before giving oral sex, your risks of contracting STIs is hugely increased because vaginal fluid or semen can go directly into all of the little cuts. Interesting! Just so you know, if you need to, there doesn't seem to be a problem with brushing your teeth afterward... though depending on your timing and attitude you might offend your partner!


Dear Bex,

I've been experimenting with piss play in the shower with my partner and I'm pretty sure that some may have gotten in my mouth. I know that thing about how you can drink your own urine something like seven times before it is toxic, but what about drinking someone elses urine?

Pee Pal

Dear PP

(Haha pee pee). It seems that if you and your partner are healthy and free of STIs, there's not a whole lot of danger in ingesting each other's urine.

You should be aware that urine tends to be acidic, and since it is a waste product of the body it can contain bacteria and toxins, though it is mostly water based and relatively sterile. Urine contains trace elements of many things like nitrogen, potassium, sodium, and undigested alcohol, and even toxic substances like lead or arsenic. It can also contain trace amounts of drugs that a person has taken, though likely not enough to affect the pee drinker.

Water sports are generally harmless, but if urine gets into the eyes, nose, mouth, or open sores it could cause a lot of irritation. It could also conceivably transmit infections. If you drink a persons pee or it enters your body through a sore, it is possible to pass on a urinary tract infection, Hepatitis B, chlamydia, and even herpes because they all maintain a presence in urine. Also, people who have autoimmune disorders (including HIV/AIDS), diabetes, kidney problems, high blood pressure, or other major medical problems might want to enjoy their golden showers without a taste test in order to avoid possible infection. (TeenHealthFX.com, http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu)

Basically, take care of yourselves and get tested, if all is clear then no worries! I would also recommend drinking a lot of water before playing so that your urine will be more water and less concentrated body waste. Have fun with that!


Bex,

So... is it lazy to use a vibrator? What d'ya think?

-Viscious Vibes

Oh Viscious Vibes, no, I don't think it's lazy to use a vibrator! In fact I think I feel more lazy when I choose not to use a vibrator!

Think of all the effort it takes! You've got to pick which one you want to use, take it out of your toy box, if it's out of batteries you've got to change them, then you have to pick which setting you want, grab some lube if you need it, get the right angle going, have an orgasm... and then in your deliciously relaxed post-orgasmic state you have to get up, clean your vibe, and then put it away! SO MUCH EFFORT!

Don't feel lazy about using your vibrator! Embrace the vibe and recognize how much rewarding work it actually takes to give yourself pleasure. And every once in awhile make sure you give your fingers a little lovin' too!