Welcome to the first Sex with Bex of 2007!
Since the theme is the environment and we’re all starting to save up for our summer plans, I thought I’d throw together a few tips (with the help of www.outdoorplaces.com) on how to enjoy the outdoors-- sexy styles… particularly in a camping type setting.
First of all, be aware of where you are. Campgrounds are often close quarters and tent walls are thin! You may want to commune with nature through your passionate lovemaking, but try to remember you may not be the only one in the woods. If you’re camping along water be aware that sound travels easily for great distances. If you’re outside of the tent, make sure you learn your plant types. Avoiding stinging nettle, poison ivy, poison oak, etc. is imperative!
If you’re camping out in bear country and things start getting smooth, you should be aware that there have been several documented cases of couples being attacked during of just after having sex. There’s a possibility that the sounds and smells of sex attract bears, but it’s also possible that the people in these cases were so overtaken with lust that they just didn’t clean up their site properly and the bears were just looking for a snack.
Speaking of clean-up, it’s important to remember that used safer sex devices like condoms and dental dams are animal magnets since they are covered in bodily fluids. You shouldn’t burn or bury these materials because that would be quite environmentally unfriendly. You also shouldn’t keep them in your tent in case of curious animals. Should store them in a double sealed plastic bag with the rest of your garbage and take it with you when you leave your campsite until you get to a proper place for disposal.
You should also be aware that bodily fluids can be tough on those fancy sleeping bags as the sweat and body oils work at breaking down the fabric. You may want to consider packing an extra lovin’ blanket, or bringing an old sleeping bag.
So there you go, now you can begin to plan your sexy summer camping trip, or alternately plan some bear-free snowy sex.
-Bex
Dear Bex,
how is it possible that when i have my period and i'm wearing a diva cup i can still get quite wet? i think it's the same for people wearing a tampon?... it amazes me every time. i love my cunt. i'm assuming the natural lube comes from the lower parts of the
vaginal walls? i can't think of any other explanation. it would be awesome if you also found out some possible biological explanations for this configuration.
Lubey and Lovin’ It
Dear Lubey,
How appropriate to bring up the Diva Cup in the environmental issue! For those of you out there who don’t know, the Diva Cup is an environmentally friendly menstrual product made of medical grade silicone. It’s inserted into the vagina where it collects up the blood so you can dump it out into the toilet (or to feed your plants if you’re feeling botanical). Diva Cups are available at most health food stores and also at the GRCGED on campus if you’re interested. As Lubey mentioned, it doesn’t interfere with natural vaginal lubrication, which can happen with tampons that can absorb your natural fluids (besides blood), and cause unpleasant irritation. (www.divacup.com)
Anyway, yes, natural lubrication is secreted from the vaginal walls, not just the lower part, and is part of the first stage of sexual response cycle. There’s only a general understanding of what natural lube is made up of. Throughout the menstrual cycle, vaginal mucus changes in response to the body’s hormone production. When sexual arousal kicks in, a sweating reaction in the vaginal walls occurs making them wet. This wetness mixed with the vaginal mucus creates the lubrication that you know and love. It can contain carbohydrates, amino acids, proteins, and other acids produced by the normal lactobacillus bacteria. (Human Sexuality in a World of Diversity, 2004)
Basically when you’re stimulated and you get lubed up, Diva Cups don’t absorb anything you can tell!
Dear Bex,
I am a man with a deliciously voluptuous female partner and I’m wondering if you have any ideas of sexual positions we can try to maximize our close contact during sex?
Dangerous Curves Ahead
DCA,
Obviously everyone’s bodies are different so it’s going to take some experimenting, but there are definitely a few positions you can try to maximize the pleasure for you and your partner. First, good old fashioned doggie style can yield deep penetration whether your partner is curvy or not.
You can also try having your partner lie on her side and raise her upper leg as high as is comfortable. Then you put your knees on either side of her lower thigh and enter her. She can then rest her upper leg on your shoulder and you can control thrusting by holding onto her leg or placing your hands in comfortable place on her bum and tummy, etc.
Spooning is also a possibility where you both lie on your sides and you penetrate from behind (this is a low impact position in terms of exertion and has been referred to as the magic position… especially when feeling sleepy and lusty at the same time). Finding good sex positions for both of you is going to take some trial and error… but that sounds pretty fun to me!
Fun Fact:
Did you know that the “G” in “G-spot” is named for Ernest Grafenberg, a gynecologist who discovered that women could orgasm from stimulation of this spot. He also discovered that these orgasms are sometimes accompanied by the discharge of fluid from the urethra. Fancy.
Book:
Dick: A User’s Guide by Dr. Michele C. Moore and Dr. Caroline de Costa
I bought this fine book about wang toting for my little brother on his thirteenth birthday and boy was there giggling! The text uses clear language and funny anecdotes to educate and dispel common misconceptions about the penis. Key topics in the texts include “Size (does it matter)”, “Condoms”, “Proper Hygiene”, “Safety”, and my personal favourite “Effective Handling”. I think this book is incredibly accessible and entertaining guide to all things penis related.
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